Girl Code

​I always had an internal “code” that I lived by from a very young age, and didn’t think was up for discussion, or the fact that it even exists.

You know, in the same way we need water. Yes, I very much thought every girl has this code, until I met plenty of those who don’t.

Girls can have such a deep, complex bond that a man could never understand or could even remotely imagine what it means to have your ride or die girlfriend, so before I start bashing those who didn’t have one, let me just start by listing what a “girl code” is to me:

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Here are some principles of girl code to me, and in my book, I truly hope ya’ll relate to it one way or another, and if none apply, girrrrrrl, you need to check your moral compass like real hard.

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1- My girlfriend’s man is a genderless to me, and I do NOT see him as anything else, and if he breaks a boundary, my job is to remind him who he is and his place.

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2- The things I know about my girlfriend are for me and for me alone; no man (No one) on earth shall know her secrets, and the things she trusted me with, her secrets with me are truly safe.

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3- A man’s anatomy (wink wink) is not for a coffee break with my girlfriend. I am a feminist who respects that relationships are built on trust, and not everything is for everyone to know.

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4- My girl’s choices are hers and hers alone. I am there to support or guide if needed or asked for, I am not there to judge or demean her choices or life decisions, I am a friend, and that means I will be there to help her carry through the outcome.

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5- Her success is a reason for me to celebrate and feel fulfilled that I am surrounded by women who win in life, and that celebration is mutual. Jealousy has no place in this equation.

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These are just 5 out of many principles I have drawn for myself. And for some reason, I suddenly feel extremely self-conscious about how this would read, especially to a woman who never thought about a “girls' code”, or now is thinking, why should I even have one?

Girl, have you seen what patriarchy has done to all women all these years?

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Anyways, let me not get all “political” on you now, but girls, We’re supposed to have each other’s back … like a family of mom elephants protecting a new youngster, if girl code is embedded, we can probably stop all the madness that’s happening in the world, not that it’s our job but protecting one another should come to us naturally.

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Love & Peace

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Meero