"Turning red flags, green."

By MEERO

 At the beginning of relationships, a lot of people turn those very obvious vibrant red flags into green flags instead and then tend to blame others for becoming something else later, which can also be true in a lot of cases. Still, many of us are guilty of changing the incredible, authentic, genuine red flag to a lovely green shade that suits our need for something.

Whether it is a need for companionship and love or the fear of loneliness, we allow reality to bend otherwise at any other time when we didn't have those needs or fears we could have accepted.


You start convincing yourself that the flaws could be a true advantage… and that is a change of mindset, but with that comes denying reality, which is a horrifying thought. Is your need for belonging and love making you twist and bend reality to fit that mold you built in your imagination to feed this need by keeping people around you that you shouldn't be keeping?


There's no 100% correct answer; everything can be 50/50, 30/70, or 90/10 … there's no standard formula, but I can tell you in relationships, instead of bending your whole truth and arriving at the end at a miserable disappointment. You need to observe, observe, and keep observing.


Observe your actions with a lot of courage because you're about to face an ugly side of yours that you are probably not ready for yet. Be forgiving of what you observe, be kind to your ugly side … understand that that side also came from a place of survival, so be compassionate to your "whole self."


And then, observe your partner again with a compassionate, understanding, and non-judgmental tone. Now, neither of you has to bend their truth to meet the other. Now you are who you are, then comes how to go from there … but you cannot put a final destination on your GPS until you first put where you are located, and to add that, you must KNOW your LOCATION first.


Love & peace


Meero


                                                                                                                                    

An Egyptian-American woman who spent the last two decades in New York’s fashion industry is now embracing a new chapter in her life. With a fresh perspective and a deep sense of purpose, she is transitioning to a career as a life coach. Her journey through personal and professional challenges has led her to realize that her true calling lies in helping and serving others. By guiding people through their struggles, she aims to make a meaningful impact on the world—something she found lacking in the fashion industry.

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